On friendship

What really is our basis in choosing our friends? If you have a friend and she/he betrayed or did a bad thing about you, will you still consider her as your friend?

In my life, i have witnessed friends who have come and go. Friends who just wanted to be your friend because they wanted something from you. Yung tipo ba na kapag wala ka nang silbi sa kanila, iiwan ka na lang sa ere. Sa office lang maraming ganyan. Hindi mo lang sila napagbigyan, hala, masama ka na para sa kanila. What do i do with people who are like that? DROP THEM FROM MY FRIEND's LIST.

Friends who are pretending to be your friend because they wanted your reaction on something and if you do have the "reaction" that they are waiting for, they would "quote" you for it. I have been a victim once. Be careful with those kind of people.

Many years ago, i belonged to a group in my workplace, our group name: FRIENDS. 6 individuals with different personalities. We vowed that whenever our group would encounter misunderstanding, we would patch things up and we will not let the others know that there's trouble in our group (people in our office are always looking forward to those kind of incident, for gossip nila). Unfortunately, it was short lived. The reason? Nagkampihan. Instead na ayusin yung misunderstanding ng 2 magkaibigan, ginatungan lang yung galit ng isa. The result: nagkarun ng lamat yung friendship. And it was ireparable. We all tried to be "like it was before" but once the damage has been done, hindi mo na talaga maibabalik ang nakaraan. Now we all try to be civil and professional in dealing with each other.

Still, there are friends who through thick and thin, kasama mo. Friends whom you could entrust your deep and darkest secret - the "it's just between you and me thing". Friends who have accepted you for what you are and not for what you could give or offer to them. I am glad I have that kind of friend.